R U Awake????

So you woke up this morning and….. …you woke up…really?  Let’s put it to the Sassy Zen test…  Once you were no longer sleeping, is gratitude the first thing you felt?  If not…oh well… then you didn’t really wake up …because, if you had, you would have noticed you were awake and you would have...
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How do you define “Romance”?

Is the definition of “romance” always something that involves two people?  Two people in love?  …and today is Valentine’s day…and maybe there isn’t a romantic partner on the horizon???  Is this an iron clad recipe for disappointment and despair? Let’s test the Sassy Zen spin here and consider the possibilities of a different point of...
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NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS

…………sooooooooooooo…..mmmhhhmmm…what’s the problem with new year’s resolutions????  You know…all those grandiose plans…that this year we will __________________ (fill in the blank)… …and how many years have we been setting ourselves up for the disappointment of not following through????  How many years have we been creating more reasons for self criticism and self judgement for not...
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GIFTS

When we think of a gift…or a present…do we think of “stuff”?   Well…a gift is also a talent…(a gifted musician…a gifted scholar…etc.)…  And a present?  …THE  present?…NOW!  Mmmmhhhmmm…and the point is????  Let’s go back to gifts…Do we value our gifts?  Are we grateful for those talents and abilities that are innate…that come easily and effortlessly...
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When NOT to do affirmations

  When feeling sad and discouraged, we are so often told to do affirmations and we’ll feel better.  REALLY?!?!?!? How are we going to feel better by telling ourselves that we’re happy and successful when it just sounds so untrue?  In fact,  trying to convince ourselves by repeating such affirmations is likely to make us...
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Halloween Treats

  On Halloween we want treats, right?  (please skip the tricks!)… And…in life, don’t we also want lots of treats?  (tricks, UGH!) As in the brilliant quote by Wayne Dyer:  “It doesn’t matter if you go to the ocean to fill up a thimble or a bucket, the ocean doesn’t care” Why not come to...
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Lighten Up – Brighten Up

Soooooooooooo important to remember… …we can smile…even if while feeling crabby… We can call a friend…or… …go for a walk… …put on some music… …sing along… …dance …clean out the junk drawer… … go through the closet & find stuff to donate… … take a bath… …go to the movies… …read a fun book… …bring...
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Self Criticism

Self criticism is self destructive! Do any of these statements sound familiar? You’re such a loser You never get anything right You’re so stupid No one will ever love you You always mess up You’re a failure You’ll never be happy You’re no good You’re worthless…fat…old…ugly…fill in the blank….. Do you ever notice saying any...
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Snap Out of It!

This is not being said in a spirit of being mean or harsh or uncaring… Sometimes we get so stuck in the story of our broken relationship…the unfairness of it…the pain…fear…regret…anger…betrayal…disappointment…All that ____________ (fill in the blank) And, really…it’s not so unusual to get stuck in our stories…after all…they’re so REAL to us…This is what’s...
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